The Husband Planned the Wedding

Many hours go into the planning of a wedding. Everything from colors to cakes, dresses to decor, gown to grooms men, recital to reception, brides maids to beautiful music. Endless decisions about preferences: rice, bird seed, or bubbles; inside or outside; large wedding or small; real flowers or fake; bi-fold or tri-fold program; sleeves or no sleeves for the bride's maids; black, white, gray, blue, or burgundy tuxedos (ok I have never really seen a blue or burgundy tux except in my parents 1960's wedding pic). As I pondered weddings I wondered why it fell on the bride to make all of these decisions. Now I understand that every bride wants the fiance's opinion, and by opinion she means she genuinely wants the fiance to agree with what she wants. Nevertheless the bride makes the final decision, because ultimately it is her day.

But what if it were different. What if the groom was the wedding planner. What if it were up to him to choose all of the things that would be a part of the wedding day? Would the ceremony be in blue jeans and t-shirts and just the essentials- no music, no prolonging everything- just get to the "I do's" or would the wedding be the first of thousands of loving choices made by the husband to love his wife by considering her preferences above his own. Would he choose her favorite flowers for her to carry? Would he pick the color that not only matched the season, but desire of the bride? Would he labor over the details of the invitation that would please his wife? Would he plan the music and pick the dress that made her feel beautiful?

Would he love himself by loving his wife?
Ephesians 5:28
"In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself."

What if the wife planned the honeymoon and the husband planned the wedding?